Comments on One Angry Daughter: Home

My adopted daughter, who is now a parent, seems to...

2010-08-10T07:37:40.535-07:00

My adopted daughter, who is now a parent, seems to show many of the signs you saw in your mother. She is surrounded by much chaos and drama, most of which is her own making. It's hard, as her mother and as a grandmother, for us to walk away from her, esp with a child involved. Thanks for your insightful essay.

I love this! It is as if I am reading my own stor...

2010-02-18T10:53:35.793-08:00

I love this! It is as if I am reading my own story...thanks for sharing and I will continue to follow your blog. I am just now starting on my own path of healing - I too am the only "sane" person in my FOO of alcoholics, addictions, NPD and BPD. Sad as your story may seem, it helps me knowing that I am truly not the only one who has had this nightmare of a life and a nightmare of a struggle to untangle myself and be truly free. Thanks from the bottom of my heart for the inspiration and strength to keep going...

2010-02-18T10:51:14.341-08:00

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@anonymous - thank you for the reminder we have a ...

2010-01-18T05:47:06.273-08:00

@anonymous - thank you for the reminder we have a choice on who we surround ourselves with. My wish for myself, my family and everyone is that they are surrounded by supporting, unconditional love.

Home. Home is not a place or a specific group of ...

2010-01-16T17:22:24.277-08:00

Home. Home is not a place or a specific group of people. Home is a feeling. For some, home is acceptance, others it might be familiarity. No mater what, we all have a choice of what we fill our homes with. I choose love.

Thank you for you comments. @K - I am really feel...

2010-01-16T16:08:23.181-08:00

Thank you for you comments.

@K - I am really feeling the difficulty of it today... I am completely fustrated wishing there was a way to see eye to eye. There is never peace with the decision.

@Elaine - thank you for sharing your experience and giving your encouragement. I look forward to following your blog!

Hello. I just found your website and found it to ...

2010-01-15T11:19:01.913-08:00

Hello. I just found your website and found it to be very insightful. I totally empathize with your situation. My husband and I both come from toxic families and we are the only siblings that are not enmeshed. I am 48 but when my first child was born was when I actually took a therapist's advise and moved to another state. Things were great for a couple years with no contact until another therapist made us feel guilty and we reestablished contact. That was 21 years ago and I am back to wanting no contact. Part of me is glad that my children got to know their extended families but so much energy was tied up in walking that line of getting along that I had none left for establishing new healthier friendships and surrogate family so my kids could have healthy role models in my husband and I. Instead they saw us stressed and complaining about our families and "putting up with people who treat us badly." Now they are in college and sometimes are attracted to friends who demean them and although we talk about it I know they learned that from me. All I can do now is be a good strong role model and stay away from narcissists at all costs from now on. You are so wise for your age and I can tell you are a very loving mother to your new baby. Congratulations! I would like you to please visit my blog that I just started about survivors of narcissistic parents among other things. It is at www.hopehealing.wordpress.com. I'd like to know what you think of it. I'll be following to see how you are doing. I'm very proud of you. Elaine

You are so eloquent. But you know, there is nothin...

2010-01-14T23:53:50.355-08:00

You are so eloquent. But you know, there is nothing simple about a cut off. Real, maybe, but simple, no.

It is neither simple to commence nor to maintain.

K

Beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

2010-01-14T06:35:07.051-08:00

Beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

THUMBS UP!

2010-01-13T11:54:05.608-08:00

*THUMBS UP!*

Beautifully written.

2010-01-13T10:29:03.034-08:00

Beautifully written.