Abbreviations, Cast of Characters, Disclaimer

I normally have this posted at the bottom of the blog- but I don't think people were seeing it.  Here are some common abbreviations I use and the labels I use for the people involved. The labels I use are based on my observation and research.  I am not a psychiatric professional, just someone looking for answers and these labels are the best way for me to explain my situation.

People:

OAD - me, One Angry Daughter

FOO - Family of Origin

EF - my father. "Enabling Father"

NM - my mother. "Narcisistic Mother"

BPD-Sister - my sister, she has borderline personality disorder, maybe narcissistic.  She has been clinically classified as severly mentally ill.
GC - Golden Child - this role has been assigned to me or my sister at various times. Currently it is my sister.

FOC - Family of Choice:

DS - Dear Son

DH - Dear Husband

MIL - Mother In Law

FIL - Father In Law

Terms:
DoNM - Daughter of Narcisistic Mothers


ACoN - Adult Child of a Narcissist

ACoA - Adult Child of an Alcoholic

LC - Limited Contact

NC - No Contact

NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder

BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder

NS - Narcissistic Supply

NW - Narcissistic Wounding

FOG - Fear, Obligation, Guilt - often used in the phrase N-FOG or Narcissitic FOG.  These are the tools of a narcissist to get you to comply to their will.

Disclaimer:
Any advice or experience I give on this site should be taken for what it is - advice from someone who is just going through a painful time and who is not a professional. While I feel it is helpful for all of us to share our experiences and what we have discovered, it should not be subsituted for the help of the right mental health professional.

My Goal

I hope by sharing my experience I can help others going through a similar situation.  I want other DoNMs, ACoNs, ACoAs and other victims of emotional abuse to know it is not their fault and they have the power to walk away from the source of the abuse.  There are many of us out there - too many of us who know all too well.

Posting this in the past, and will link to it as a reference.  The date and time of this posting is when the "final straw" occurred and my whole life changed.